Brainy Parenting

This third chapter of the book talks about the parenting styles of single parents and how they compare with those adopted by couples in long term parenting relationships. The focus is on the parenting tips for single parents discussed in the previous chapters as well as some "tricks" that they suggest to make parenting more bearable for even mothers who find it difficult to juggle family life with work and raising kids. These include acknowledging children's need for human contact, learning new approaches to parenting such as shared parenting, implementing effective communication skills, and accepting children for who they are. It also describes practical parenting tips for single fathers and women and provides a critical review of research on the effect of early parenting education on child development.


The second part of this chapter considers the second part of the parenting committee a contribution to establish core parenting knowledge, habits, and techniques that are important for healthy child development and positive parent-child relationships. This chapter considers three central parenting ideas which are necessary for parenting youth: establishing appropriate child safety and independence, building positive self-esteem, and relating to children as unique and special beings. The author rightly highlights that parenting begins with the recognition that children grow up faster and learn more when they feel nurtured rather than threatened by their environment. In fact, parenting should be a very natural, gentle, and loving process. If parents nurture their children from early childhood until they become teenagers, their children develop much stronger parenting skills.


The third parenting chapter looks at the second half of the parenting triumvirate--the relationship between parenting practices and family structure. The author rightly claims that many families in the United States are practicing family structure that is both unstable and unhealthy. He identifies three major problems faced by single parents today: lack of stability, dysfunctional parenting, and harmful relational patterns. The author suggests eleven solutions to achieve a healthy family structure for all involved. These include maintaining regular family meetings, maintaining parenting techniques that help to promote productive communication and parenting skills, promoting responsible alcohol and drug use, making parenting an integral part of a healthy lifestyle, creating a set of clear rules for parenting and involving parents in decision making about their children, implementing parenting strategies that reduce violence, promoting a positive and non-threatening parenting approach, and encouraging children's self-reliance.